But My Grief Still Hurts! What’s Wrong?

Do you feel like you aren’t progressing in your grief?  Do you feel like nothing ever changes in your emotional struggle with loss?  Sometimes…many times the changes in grief happen so slowly and in such small steps that the change goes unnoticed.  It can be only after the passage of time in your grief journey that you can look back and measure your progress and how you and your grief have changed.

The selection below by an anonymous mourner eloquently describes that slow change.

Author Unknown

Grief never goes away.  I like to compare it to a jagged cold piece of stone when it first becomes real slipping from the larger mountain into a stream.  It is rough, irregular and clatters noisily as it moves down the flow.

Grief like the stone loses its rough edges over time.  The stone moves on in the journey through the creeks and rivers and becomes smooth.

Grief also loses its roughness with time.  The grief is the same grief, as the stone is the same stone.  Just like the stone it may possess near the same weight and character.

In the end inevitably it meets the eternal ocean.  Perhaps there it is where our grief may find its final polish like so many beautiful pebbles on the shores.

Posted by Larry M. Barber, LPC-S, CT author of the grief survival guide “Love Never Dies: Embracing Grief with Hope and Promise”  available online at Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/Love-Never-LPC-S-Larry-Barber/dp/1613796005 ), Barnes & Noble (http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/love-never-dies-lpc-s-ct-larry-m-barber-ct-larry-m/1104364890?ean=9781613796016).

The grief survival guide is also available in Spanish as “El Amor Nunca Muere: Aceptando el Dolor con Esperanza y Promesa” 

Both English and Spanish versions are available for Kindle and Nook. Larry is the director of GriefWorks, a free grief support program for children and their families in Dallas TX  http://grief-works.org.

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