- You should not be alone during the holidays.
- Love does not end with death. Your relationship with your loved one continues.
- You need to talk about your grief. Don’t be afraid to share what you think, feel & need during the holidays.
- You need to know & honor your limitations during special days. Set your expectations low…not too high.
- You should eliminate unnecessary stress. Build in time for yourself & your needs.
- You need to be with supportive, comforting people. Limit your time with people who are difficult to deal with or who cause you stress.
- You have an emotional need to mention the name of the person who has died.
- You need to tell others what is right for you during the holidays…what is comforting & what is painful.
- You should plan ahead for gatherings.
- You ought to embrace your treasure of memories.
- You should reflect on why you & others celebrate these special days. Make them filled with meaning & purpose.
- You should depend upon the resources available to you through your faith.
- Mourning in a healthy way during the holidays will help you heal & move toward reconciliation.
The grief survival guide is also available in Spanish as “El Amor Nunica Muere: Aceptando el Dolor con Esperanza y Promesa” on Amazon.com.
Larry is the director of GriefWorks, a free grief support program for children and their families in Dallas TX http://grief-works.org.
FOR INFORMATION ON SCHEDULING COUNSELING SERVICES WITH LARRY BARBER https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/larry-barber .