Ten Tips for Reaching Out to Mourners on the July 4th Holiday Weekend

  1. When you think about them, immediately email, text or call them to just say “Hi” and let them know you are there for them.
  2. Send a personal note of encouragement, comfort and support.
  3. Give them a meaningful gift that evokes special memories of their loved one.
  4. Share your favorite memories of their loved one.
  5. When you make your favorite July 4th meal, invite them over to eat or deliver them a meal.
  6. Offer to take them to a summer blockbuster movie or a concert.
  7. Invite them to Independence Day parades, celebrations and fireworks displays.
  8. Give a donation in honor of their loved one to a charity or cause they support.
  9. Let them know you are keeping them and their family in prayer.
  10. Assure them that they are free to share whatever emotion they experience.  You won’t judge what they say or feel.  You will just listen and share the moment. 

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”  Romans 12:15 NIV

Remember to not let your fear of saying or doing the wrong thing or intruding in the life of a mourner keep you from doing anything at all for them.  Mourners need you and others for support, encouragement and comfort.  They need to speak honestly and to be heard.  They need to know they have been heard and understood.  By being there for a mourning friend or family member, you can be a catalyst in the healing process.

Written by Larry M. Barber, LPC-S, CT author of the grief survival guide “Love Never Dies: Embracing Grief with Hope and Promise”  available online at Amazon, Barnes & Noble or Christianbook.com.

The grief survival guide is also available in Spanish as “El Amor Nunca Muere: Aceptando el Dolor con Esperanza y Promesa” on Amazon.com.

Larry is the director of GriefWorks, a free grief support program for children and their families in Dallas TX  http://grief-works.org.



About griefminister

Director, GriefWorks & CounselingWorks Licensed Professional Counselor Certified in Thanatology (Study of Death, Dying & Bereavement) by The Association of Death Education and Counseling Grief Therapist, Educator, Consultant Author-"Love Never Dies: Embracing Grief with Hope and Promise.'
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