Here are five indications that we mourners may be healing in our grief:
Our sense of humor returns
Suddenly we are smiling, laughing & experiencing joy in life. Our old mood swings don’t go as low as they used to. We can feel the time lengthen between our highs and lows.
The way we talk about our loved one changes
We begin to focus on our memories of loved ones with joy & laughter rather than sadness & crying. We focus more on the life of the loved one rather than their death & our loss.
Our social activities change
We “return to life” by renewing relationships and/or beginning new ones. We build a support system that assists us in reconciling ourselves to life without our loved one.
We display confidence & hope for the future
We learn we have the choice of how we respond to grief & how we live our lives. We begin to heal, grow & hope for the future. We realize that there are things to look forward to each day of our life.
We maintain our relationship with the loved one in a new way
We understand that our relationship cannot exist as it used to. But we also realize our relationship with the loved one has not ended with death. We maintain our spiritual & emotional ties to the person.
Written by Larry M. Barber, LPC-S, CT author of the grief survival guide “Love Never Dies: Embracing Grief with Hope and Promise” available online at Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/Love-Never-LPC-S-Larry-Barber/dp/1613796005 ), Barnes & Noble (http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/love-never-dies-lpc-s-ct-larry-m-barber-ct-larry-m/1104364890?ean=9781613796016).
The grief survival guide is also available in Spanish as “El Amor Nunca Muere: Aceptando el Dolor con Esperanza y Promesa”