Worried about getting through an upcoming special day in your grief? Birthdays, anniversaries and holidays without your loved one can be difficult. But all you need to survive those dreaded days in grief is this short list:
- Remember the anticipation of the special day is usually worse than the actual experience of the day itself. Imagined catastrophes are almost always much worse than reality.
- Make a plan for the special day so that you’ll feel you’ll have a choice in what happens next. You’ll probably have less painful or uncomfortable surprises this way.
- Do something in honor of your loved one on the special day. Your grief will not take the day off and you’ll need to express your feeling in a healthy way.
Written by Larry M. Barber, LPC-S, CT author of the grief survival guide “Love Never Dies: Embracing Grief with Hope and Promise” available online at Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/Love-Never-LPC-S-Larry-Barber/dp/1613796005 ), Barnes & Noble (http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/love-never-dies-lpc-s-ct-larry-m-barber-ct-larry-m/1104364890?ean=9781613796016).
The grief survival guide is also available in Spanish as “El Amor Nunca Muere: Aceptando el Dolor con Esperanza y Promesa”