The Greatest Fears of Grief

Fear is an integral part of grief. When someone close to you dies, the world automatically becomes less of a safe, secure place.  All bets are off.  This death thing suddenly becomes too real, too fast.  We all knew that 100% of us would die and 100% of us would say goodbye to people who…

Run from the Grief Counselor’s Office If You Hear These Statements

Grief support groups and individual grief counseling can make the difference in whether the mourner spends a long time struggling with the troublesome, often painful aspects of his or her loss and the grief that follows or the mourner begins and maintains a healthy grief journey toward emotional, mental and spiritual healing.  That is, if…

You Can Be Your Own Grief Coach

I know what you’re thinking. I can be my own grief coach? Really? Now just hold on and let me tell you why not only can you be your own grief coach but it is necessary for you to be your own grief coach. First, believe it or not you are the expert on your specific grief….

Post Death Dreams & Signs: Are They Real Or Imagined?

Many mourners I counsel go through periods of deep yearning to experience the closeness or presence of the loved one who died.  Some of them share with me unique experiences that cause them to feel that closeness or to receive what they perceive are messages from the deceased. The experiences they have shared with me…

All You Need To Know About Getting Through Special Days In Grief

Worried about getting through an upcoming special day in your grief? Birthdays, anniversaries and holidays without your loved one can be difficult. But all you need to survive those dreaded days in grief is this short list: Remember the anticipation of the special day is usually worse than the actual experience of the day itself….

The Absolute Worst Thing You Can Do For A Griever

The worst thing you can do for someone in grief: NOTHING Be there. Be available. Be loving and  supportive. Don’t be judgmental or controlling.  And if necessary be uncomfortable. Do all this as long as the griever needs you in their grief journey. Written by Larry M. Barber, LPC-S, CT author of the grief survival guide…

Grief Used To Sell Hamburgers:  Right or Wrong?

Complaints against a McDonald’s ad in the U.K. featuring a bereaved boy asking about his deceased father has caused the corporation to pull what critics called an insensitive ad.  What do you think?  Is childhood bereavement a taboo for advertisers? Or an opportunity to raise public awareness of the issues of grief in childhood? Check…

25 Years …And Still Grieving?

I can’t believe that this May marks the 25th anniversary of the deaths of my 37-year-old wife Cindy and my two-year-old adopted daughter Katie.  Twenty five years!  That’s 12 years longer than the 13 years Cindy and I were married before her death.  They have both been gone from my life much longer than they were in…

Becoming a Card Carrying Griever And Save Yourself Some Grief

Sometimes the answers to the most ticklish questions while you are grieving the loss of your loved one one can be really simple. Two problems that can face mourners can be solved by simply becoming a card-carrying griever. I’ll explain. Here’s the two problems and the simple solutions that you might try: Having people consistently…

Signs That You Are Healing in Grief

When you’re in the middle of grief, it’s hard to tell whether you are progressing and healing.  Movement in grief is usually very slow…so slow, in fact, that you never see it happening.   What signs can tell you when you are beginning to heal from the traumatic emotional wounds of loss? This is not an…

Understanding the Five Principles of Grief

PRINCIPLE # 1: Grief is the natural response to loss. What you experience after a loss is absolutely normal to human beings. Grief is the love or emotional investment expressed for the person who died.  So in your struggle with the pain of the moment you can be comforted that you are not alone in…