What’s Different About Christian Counseling?

Photo by Cody King on Pexels.com Generally speaking, Christian counseling and secular counseling share the same desire:  to help people overcome their life problems.  Although Christian counselors  use some of the same skills from secular psychology and counseling, they recognize that there are benefits for their clients in approaching counseling from a Christian perspective. Those…

I’m Grieving! Am I Suicidal Too?

“I’ve never had a thought like this in my life. I’m scared.  Does this mean I am suicidal?” I was on the phone talking with a trusted pastor friend and counselor … and I was truly terrified. I had always said that I didn’t understand how anyone could consider taking action to end their own…

The Greatest Fears of Grief

Fear is an integral part of grief. When someone close to you dies, the world automatically becomes less of a safe, secure place.  All bets are off.  This death thing suddenly becomes too real, too fast.  We all knew that 100% of us would die and 100% of us would say goodbye to people who…

Run from the Grief Counselor’s Office If You Hear These Statements

Grief support groups and individual grief counseling can make the difference in whether the mourner spends a long time struggling with the troublesome, often painful aspects of his or her loss and the grief that follows or the mourner begins and maintains a healthy grief journey toward emotional, mental and spiritual healing.  That is, if…

You Can Be Your Own Grief Coach

I know what you’re thinking. I can be my own grief coach? Really? Now just hold on and let me tell you why not only can you be your own grief coach but it is necessary for you to be your own grief coach. First, believe it or not you are the expert on your specific grief….

Post Death Dreams & Signs: Are They Real Or Imagined?

Many mourners I counsel go through periods of deep yearning to experience the closeness or presence of the loved one who died.  Some of them share with me unique experiences that cause them to feel that closeness or to receive what they perceive are messages from the deceased. The experiences they have shared with me…

All You Need To Know About Getting Through Special Days In Grief

Worried about getting through an upcoming special day in your grief? Birthdays, anniversaries and holidays without your loved one can be difficult. But all you need to survive those dreaded days in grief is this short list: Remember the anticipation of the special day is usually worse than the actual experience of the day itself….

The Absolute Worst Thing You Can Do For A Griever

The worst thing you can do for someone in grief: NOTHING Be there. Be available. Be loving and  supportive. Don’t be judgmental or controlling.  And if necessary be uncomfortable. Do all this as long as the griever needs you in their grief journey. Written by Larry M. Barber, LPC-S, CT author of the grief survival guide…

Grief Used To Sell Hamburgers:  Right or Wrong?

Complaints against a McDonald’s ad in the U.K. featuring a bereaved boy asking about his deceased father has caused the corporation to pull what critics called an insensitive ad.  What do you think?  Is childhood bereavement a taboo for advertisers? Or an opportunity to raise public awareness of the issues of grief in childhood? Check…